Are you being emotionally abused, gas lighted, your partner goes into uncontrollable rages for no reason, feel like your living with someone who has a Jekyll and Hyde personality? Doesn’t seem to show empathy or remorse unless its to their benefit? You may be living with a sociopath or narcissist.
Healing from this type of abuse takes a lot of self reflection, a lot of soul searching and the will power to go no contact. no contact means zero contact. No emails, no phone calls, no letters, no reaching out to their friends and saying hello, no looking at their social media, absolutely no contact. Its the only way to move forward with your life without being sucked back into the game.
You also must remove toxic people from your life, friends who take more than they give, negative people, those lovely friends who talk about you and stab you in…
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if your new or your missing the ex and he has a new supply, remember this; an abuser does not just leave you and stop abusing. this is something that just doesn’t stop, he/she will keep abusing. if it doesn’t seem like it remember they always start out love bombing someone first, its part of the abuse cycle. they cant help it they always re abuse, its who they are. so if your feeling bad and thinking you weren’t good enough the truth is you became too good for them. while your withdrawing from the relationship your going to feel terrible, this is a given. try to keep your thoughts on what is true not what your mind and body are telling you, because it wants a fix of the abuser and it wants it bad, just know this will pass if you keep no contact. it doesn’t happen over night, you didn’t get into this over night so its going to take time but once you get past this your going to feel so much better. keep educating yourself on sociopathy because that is where your answers lie.
Empaths (HSP”S) are major targets for sociopaths. Kind, caring, giving people who have zero boundaries in place in there lives will most likely attract a sociopath into their life. usually they have codependency issues that go way back to their childhood. Empaths and sociopaths are like a magnet to each other. Sociopaths take and empaths give. until there is nothing left. then the sociopath discards the victim for new supply, leaving the empath trauma bonded to the sociopath. it takes years of cognitive healing for an empath to recover from the sociopaths abuse. But it can be done. I’m living proof. #warriorfordomesticviolenceabuseandawareness
I watched a show yesterday about women and online dating. it talked about our approach to men. it was about how we are looking for only good men, responsible, well off, etc etc…. but something he said hit home. say your someone who likes to fix broken men, sees there potential and want them to change into this great guy with your help in the end thinking he is going to love you for it. well in doing this, being the fixer nice person you are sublimely telling yourself your o…nly good enough to find a guy who you can fix, someone who is not complete. your limiting to what you think you deserve when in all truth you don’t deserve someone to fix you deserve someone who doesn’t need fixing but you’ll never meet them because you have limited your beliefs to think you only deserve a man who you can improve a long the way. and that usually never happens you cant fix another person. does that make sense? know your worth and if you don’t yet or right now then don’t date until you do.
another comment the man had on that show was this;
a women was talking about how her ex told her he didn’t know if they would get back together and he was seeing someone else…he said to her and the audience, why is when we men do something bad to you, you women always blame yourselves?????? the man cheats and its your fault cause you gained weight? looked at him wrong???? responded to his adultery with harsh words and that’s your fault??? put the damn blame where it goes and stop blaming yourself because someone is a piece of shit. it has no reflection on who you are its your own twisted thinking. change the way you think. see the truth.
excellent article regarding Donald Trump
I have debated doing a post about Trump because the net is inundated with election rhetoric, everywhere you go someone is spouting about him or Clinton, it seems everyone has an opinion. Friendships are being destroyed and people are being unfriended and blocked on Facebook. People are rioting in the streets, crying and fearful.
Being Canadian I have never paid much attention to US politics or problems in the states, I just kinda thought they lived like we did north of the border. I wasn’t really aware of prejudice, police brutality, Black Lives Matter, and even though I have gay friends and had a gay brother in law that I loved dearly; I never really thought about gay rights. Even with domestic violence, I had very limited knowledge of the dynamics of abuse and I admit I had a pretty narrow and judgemental opinion on the topic. As is the…
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its so important to understand how a sociopath thinks and feels. think about this… no empathy, no remorse and no conscious. they think they are superior human beings because they don’t use emotion when thinking or acting out. although they do feel negative emotions such as rage, hate, and jealousy. I mean you really have to think about this, no guilt or remorse for any of your actions. always believing you are right, no matter what proof someone may have they will deny t…he truth no matter what. they are miserable people but its so important for us to know this about them so we can heal our wounds. your dealing with someone who could care less about you or your feelings. its a horrible way to live. do they miss us? no they do not. did they love us? no , not in the way we see love they aren’t capable. remember all this when your asking yourself do they care about me, its so important to know and understand the facts of anti social personality disorder. learn this and accept it so you can better move forward.