NO, WE ARE NOT FRIENDS
WE ARE STRANGERS WITH TWO
NO, WE ARE NOT FRIENDS
WE ARE STRANGERS WITH TWO
“I’m going to tell you what a demon once told me: It is okay to want your own happiness. It’s okay to care about yourself the most. It’s okay to do what’s healthy for YOU. When someone hits you, it’s okay to hit back and then ask them what the hell they expected. It’s okay. You are not obligated to sit there and smile and swallow every bit of shit everyone heaps on you. You are more than furniture, you’re more than window dressing, you’re not their shiny toy. You’re human, and you have the right to say ‘That was shitty of you.’ You have a right to say ‘Let me feed that back to you; tell me, how does it taste?’ You have a right to protest your own mistreatment and set boundaries for respectful interactions. The rest of the world doesn’t realize you have this right, and they will act offended and appalled when you exercise it, but it is yours.”
there is no easy button you must walk the path of healing, follow the light you see at the end of the tunnel, if you don’t see the light yet keep walking until you find it its there waiting for you to arrive.its a long journey there is no short cuts . you and only you can walk this path. no one can do this for you. you must walk it alone….
Not all toxic people are cruel and uncaring. Some of them love us dearly. Many of them have good intentions. Most are toxic to our being simply because their needs and way of existing in the world force us to compromise ourselves and our happiness. They aren’t inherently bad people, but they aren’t the right people for us. And as hard as it is, we have to let them go. Life is hard enough without being around people who bring you down, and as much as you care, you can’t destroy yourself for the sake of someone else. You have to make your well-being a priority. Whether that means breaking up with someone you care about, loving a family member from a distance, letting go of a friend, or removing yourself from a situation that feels painful — you have every right to leave and create a safer space for…
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narcissists are the cruelest people walking the planet, they never get well and stop abusing you for long, just once in awhile they are nice to you because they want something from you, they will say their sorry and in the same sentance they will say…….but if you wouldn’t have done that i wouldn’t have to react this way. it will always be your fault that he is lying, always your fault he is cheating, always your fault he goes off into narcissistic rages. if you stay its always going to be because you weren’t good enough. all these are lies but you get so dependent on the narcissist and they are so mentally abusive and fuck with your mind so badly that you become a total victim. they steal your friends, your money, your children if they can, they want to hurt you and destroy you its what they do. what they live for. remember this a narcissist hates his victim especially when you are weak and hurt they despise weakness in caring people they see us as a joke. this is not love in any form i don’t care how nice he can be for a few days its all bullshit smoke and mirrors with a narc and the smartest and best thing you can do at this point is run as far away from him as you can get and never look back. we are not full of shit this is the truth and i pray you grasp onto something here that helps you heal from all this but healing is gonna hurt like hell and its gonna take time but like most of us here , it can be done. we are proof you can be ok and find a better life for yourself and we will be there every step of the way. keep reading the articles and really open your eyes to what is happening to you. narcissists are emotional vampires and they leave when theres nothing of you left to take it sounds like you are to that point take back your life.
victims need to be understood !! they are not the abuser!!
We like to imagine that the world has grown more enlightened about domestic violence. It is no longer legal – in many countries, at least – for a man to beat or rape his wife. Some nations, such as the UK, have gone one step further in pushing to make psychological and emotional abuse (coercive control) a criminal offence. We live in a time in which there is unprecedented awareness of domestic violence / abuse and arguably greater social rejection of this devastating crime than ever before.
Yet domestic violence remains a global epidemic, present in every culture and community worldwide:
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i think we all feel this way at some point in our healing. wanting justice for the wrongs done is a pretty normal reaction i know i did, there are still moments i want revenge but i just don’t act on it. you have to ask yourself if it would make things better or worse for you? if he is out of your life now do you really want to do something that could bring him back with a vengeance? when crossed sociopaths can come back and do a lot more damage, its what they do best. do you want chaos in your life or do you want to find peace? i know none of this is fair, we are usually left with no closure which in itself is bad enough but seeking revenge will only keep the drama going and keep him focused on destroying you. don’t do it its not worth what you will go through. every day this thought goes through my head but i just don’t act on it today. this feeling does get better and lessons with time. work on your healing and try not to focus so much on him. that too will come with time