when you have gotten to this place, something in your life has gone terribly wrong. it is the universe trying to force you to awaken. you no longer can agree with the way things are going in your life. your restless, depressed, hyper vigilant and searching for an answer. this is your bodies way of telling you that the old way is not working. you must go deeply into your own soul to begin to heal. it is a spiritual awakening. if you don’t see this yet you may not be done learning your lessons in this life. if you do get this then please dig deep into your soul and heal yourself there is a whole new way of life just waiting for you to discover it. but if your not willing to listen and do the work don’t be shocked when nothing in your life ever changes or gets better. healing takes hard personal work if you don’t do the work you wont heal.
if your new or your missing the ex and he has a new supply, remember this; an abuser does not just leave you and stop abusing. this is something that just doesn’t stop, he/she will keep abusing. if it doesn’t seem like it remember they always start out love bombing someone first, its part of the abuse cycle. they cant help it they always re abuse, its who they are. so if your feeling bad and thinking you weren’t good enough the truth is you became too good for them. while your withdrawing from the relationship your going to feel terrible, this is a given. try to keep your thoughts on what is true not what your mind and body are telling you, because it wants a fix of the abuser and it wants it bad, just know this will pass if you keep no contact. it doesn’t happen over night, you didn’t get into this over night so its going to take time but once you get past this your going to feel so much better. keep educating yourself on sociopathy because that is where your answers lie.
Empaths (HSP”S) are major targets for sociopaths. Kind, caring, giving people who have zero boundaries in place in there lives will most likely attract a sociopath into their life. usually they have codependency issues that go way back to their childhood. Empaths and sociopaths are like a magnet to each other. Sociopaths take and empaths give. until there is nothing left. then the sociopath discards the victim for new supply, leaving the empath trauma bonded to the sociopath. it takes years of cognitive healing for an empath to recover from the sociopaths abuse. But it can be done. I’m living proof. #warriorfordomesticviolenceabuseandawareness
I watched a show yesterday about women and online dating. it talked about our approach to men. it was about how we are looking for only good men, responsible, well off, etc etc…. but something he said hit home. say your someone who likes to fix broken men, sees there potential and want them to change into this great guy with your help in the end thinking he is going to love you for it. well in doing this, being the fixer nice person you are sublimely telling yourself your o…nly good enough to find a guy who you can fix, someone who is not complete. your limiting to what you think you deserve when in all truth you don’t deserve someone to fix you deserve someone who doesn’t need fixing but you’ll never meet them because you have limited your beliefs to think you only deserve a man who you can improve a long the way. and that usually never happens you cant fix another person. does that make sense? know your worth and if you don’t yet or right now then don’t date until you do.
another comment the man had on that show was this;
a women was talking about how her ex told her he didn’t know if they would get back together and he was seeing someone else…he said to her and the audience, why is when we men do something bad to you, you women always blame yourselves?????? the man cheats and its your fault cause you gained weight? looked at him wrong???? responded to his adultery with harsh words and that’s your fault??? put the damn blame where it goes and stop blaming yourself because someone is a piece of shit. it has no reflection on who you are its your own twisted thinking. change the way you think. see the truth.