I watched a show yesterday about women and online dating. it talked about our approach to men. it was about how we are looking for only good men, responsible, well off, etc etc…. but something he said hit home. say your someone who likes to fix broken men, sees there potential and want them to change into this great guy with your help in the end thinking he is going to love you for it. well in doing this, being the fixer nice person you are sublimely telling yourself your o…nly good enough to find a guy who you can fix, someone who is not complete. your limiting to what you think you deserve when in all truth you don’t deserve someone to fix you deserve someone who doesn’t need fixing but you’ll never meet them because you have limited your beliefs to think you only deserve a man who you can improve a long the way. and that usually never happens you cant fix another person. does that make sense? know your worth and if you don’t yet or right now then don’t date until you do.
another comment the man had on that show was this;
a women was talking about how her ex told her he didn’t know if they would get back together and he was seeing someone else…he said to her and the audience, why is when we men do something bad to you, you women always blame yourselves?????? the man cheats and its your fault cause you gained weight? looked at him wrong???? responded to his adultery with harsh words and that’s your fault??? put the damn blame where it goes and stop blaming yourself because someone is a piece of shit. it has no reflection on who you are its your own twisted thinking. change the way you think. see the truth.
its so important to understand how a sociopath thinks and feels. think about this… no empathy, no remorse and no conscious. they think they are superior human beings because they don’t use emotion when thinking or acting out. although they do feel negative emotions such as rage, hate, and jealousy. I mean you really have to think about this, no guilt or remorse for any of your actions. always believing you are right, no matter what proof someone may have they will deny t…he truth no matter what. they are miserable people but its so important for us to know this about them so we can heal our wounds. your dealing with someone who could care less about you or your feelings. its a horrible way to live. do they miss us? no they do not. did they love us? no , not in the way we see love they aren’t capable. remember all this when your asking yourself do they care about me, its so important to know and understand the facts of anti social personality disorder. learn this and accept it so you can better move forward.
Dear Mr. Trump… can I call you Mr. Trump? Is that ok? I want you to be happy, that’s very important to me. Before I get started, let me say this letter isn’t from all women. The Trumpettes surely won’t approve of this message. But this is from most women. We see right through you. […]
via An Open Letter To Donald Trump From Some Angry Women. — Drifting Through My Open Mind
Did you believe you met your soulmate? the one who is your knight in shining armor? did he sweep you off your feet in a very short period of time, treat you like you were the most important person they had ever met? wanted to know every little secret you ever had, constantly asking you questions about yourself, finding out your inter most desires in life only to turn around over night and flip the script on you. every secret you ever told them in confidence will now be used against you in a smear campaign. the more you fight them the worst they will smear your good name. they turn into the enemy over night, cheating, lying, stealing and making up stories about you that portray you as the abuser and them as the victim. they almost always leave you for new supply. they get bored very easy and must constantly have there ego fed by the one closest to them and will discard you to find a better supply to meet these needs. and when they do so they will try to destroy you with lies and slander and the worst part is they are convincing to others that what they are saying about you is true. be silent during this time if people don’t understand then they are not your true friends, remove them from your lifeline you need only true loyal friends at this time if you are left alone with no friends after doing this that’s OK, you’ll make new friends slowly in the future when you start to live again. victims are left devastated and blaming themselves for the narcissists/sociopaths abuse, this is not your fault you have been assaulted by a sociopath / narcissist. educate yourself on trauma bonds and Stockholm syndrome, we have all been touched by a trauma bond and educating yourself about these two things will help you break the bond the sociopath / narcissist has over you. stop the cycle of abuse know that this relationship is never going to survive the damage done to it, it wont ever change and get better, they are simply not capable. sure they can write you promises and swear to you that they will change but it wont ever happen to anyone with anti social personality disorder. the sooner you can accept this fact the sooner you can work towards your healing and please for Gods sake put the blame where it is deserved, with the sociopath / narcissist, not with yourself because you didn’t see it coming. in no way are you responsible for the damage caused by a sociopath / narcissist. so get that thought out of your head, don’t confuse yourself more than your abuser already has.
If you go back and everything is the same don’t beat yourself up. Realize he (she) will never change. You will always get the same from a sociopath or narcissist. They do not just change for the better its a trick. Don’t waste your time sitting there doing nothing, taking someone’s shit, be done. Move. Do what ever you have to do to get away from them. The sooner you start to heal the sooner your life will change for the better. But stop beating the shit out of yourself, they have done enough of that to you don’t do it to yourself to.
“this is only a test !!! the universe is trying to teach you a lesson. that you matter, what you think matters, what you feel matters. most of us have lost our identities to these relationships the universe is trying to reconnect your soul. go with the flow, the pain will subside in time. you will not stay in pain and depressed forever, this is temporary. this is only a test !!!”
~~~~~~~One day you will look back and see how easy it would have been if you had not decided to make it so hard ~~~~~~~