Dear Mr. Trump… can I call you Mr. Trump? Is that ok? I want you to be happy, that’s very important to me. Before I get started, let me say this letter isn’t from all women. The Trumpettes surely won’t approve of this message. But this is from most women. We see right through you. […]
Did you believe you met your soulmate? the one who is your knight in shining armor? did he sweep you off your feet in a very short period of time, treat you like you were the most important person they had ever met? wanted to know every little secret you ever had, constantly asking you questions about yourself, finding out your inter most desires in life only to turn around over night and flip the script on you. every secret you ever told them in confidence will now be used against you in a smear campaign. the more you fight them the worst they will smear your good name. they turn into the enemy over night, cheating, lying, stealing and making up stories about you that portray you as the abuser and them as the victim. they almost always leave you for new supply. they get bored very easy and must constantly have there ego fed by the one closest to them and will discard you to find a better supply to meet these needs. and when they do so they will try to destroy you with lies and slander and the worst part is they are convincing to others that what they are saying about you is true. be silent during this time if people don’t understand then they are not your true friends, remove them from your lifeline you need only true loyal friends at this time if you are left alone with no friends after doing this that’s OK, you’ll make new friends slowly in the future when you start to live again. victims are left devastated and blaming themselves for the narcissists/sociopaths abuse, this is not your fault you have been assaulted by a sociopath / narcissist. educate yourself on trauma bonds and Stockholm syndrome, we have all been touched by a trauma bond and educating yourself about these two things will help you break the bond the sociopath / narcissist has over you. stop the cycle of abuse know that this relationship is never going to survive the damage done to it, it wont ever change and get better, they are simply not capable. sure they can write you promises and swear to you that they will change but it wont ever happen to anyone with anti social personality disorder. the sooner you can accept this fact the sooner you can work towards your healing and please for Gods sake put the blame where it is deserved, with the sociopath / narcissist, not with yourself because you didn’t see it coming. in no way are you responsible for the damage caused by a sociopath / narcissist. so get that thought out of your head, don’t confuse yourself more than your abuser already has.
If you go back and everything is the same don’t beat yourself up. Realize he (she) will never change. You will always get the same from a sociopath or narcissist. They do not just change for the better its a trick. Don’t waste your time sitting there doing nothing, taking someone’s shit, be done. Move. Do what ever you have to do to get away from them. The sooner you start to heal the sooner your life will change for the better. But stop beating the shit out of yourself, they have done enough of that to you don’t do it to yourself to.
“this is only a test !!! the universe is trying to teach you a lesson. that you matter, what you think matters, what you feel matters. most of us have lost our identities to these relationships the universe is trying to reconnect your soul. go with the flow, the pain will subside in time. you will not stay in pain and depressed forever, this is temporary. this is only a test !!!”
if you are new to sociopathic abuse recovery or still going through intense pain, just know you are right where your supposed to be. recovery from narcissistic or sociopathic abuse is going to be the hardest thing you have ever done in your life. is it normal to be so depressed and suicidal? yes it is !! you are going to want to just die for awhile, this is a normal response just do not act on it, it will pass in time. if it gets so bad that you feel you may act on it please go to the ER and explain… what your going through, they probably wont understand the narcissist part but they do understand depression. just know that like everything else bad this does go away. also don’t just lie there being depressed and letting your thoughts run wild. use this time to go ahead and lie in bed, take your laptop with you and start researching sociopathy. put new info into your brain that is going to help you heal. this part of recovery is the beginning, yes you have a long ways to go but your on the right path if you do this. give yourself permission to grieve. also be good to yourself. eat something don’t stave yourself, go for a little walk if you can this will help you feel better. just take care of you, you are now learning that you matter and no one but you can take care of yourself, someone else is not responsible for your happiness you are. your on a journey to find yourself now, know that. just know this even though you feel so alone in this world your not. there are 4,000 + members in this group, usually a couple hundred active at the time, you are not alone !!! we do care and will help you walk the path. I want you to envision that tunnel with a light at the very end this is where your at now. how quickly you get to the other side is up to you. you must do the work so start reading. just know this much , we all have been where you are and felt that same intense pain, we walked through it. you cant go around it you must feel it and walk straight through your pain that is how you will heal, we have been here and know how you feel that’s why we do what we do and try to give back and help those on this journey. we did it so will you. don’t give up and know that how you feel is normal for what you are going through.
~~~~~~~One day you will look back and see how easy it would have been if you had not decided to make it so hard ~~~~~~~
someone asked me to do a post about gratitude for the new people. I know some people think its crap but I’m living proof that it works and so are others. you will be what you think. if your negative in your thinking everything is going to be a challenge. it will be hard and draining. very hard to heal that way. just try to be grateful for something in your life, make a gratitude list and read and add to it every day. put it up somewhere youll see it all the time. being positive about what you do have, no matter how small right now, will change the course your life takes. negativity breads unhappiness and it causes chaos and bad feelings in your life. its very hard to heal. changing your thought process is so beneficial to healing yourself. as soon as I tried to start doing this things in my life changed for the better. good things started happening for me. they may be small things but they will start to add up. no it doesn’t happen over night but if you practice this your life will begin to change. make that list of what your grateful for, really dig deep and no matter how small be grateful things can always be worse even though it doesn’t feel like it right now. give it a chance what have you got to lose????? I found this in all my notes I loved it when I read it but don’t know who the author was. Here’s to the power if positive intentions………. ” I embrace success. The words “I can’t” are not in my vocabulary. I refuse to believe my own excuses. I am unstoppable! I am calm in the face of conflict. I brush annoyances off quickly & easily. I agree to disagree. I am bigger than that! I choose to radiate love, joy & gratitude today. I know life is too short to dwell on negativity. I walk in the light! I release my need to impress others. I know that I have nothing to prove. I choose to accept myself just the way I am! I am free to create my OWN reality. I have choices in all situations. Nothing stands between me and my highest good. I release my attachment to everything that no longer serves me. I refuse to let anything or anyone hold me back! I release my need to compare myself to others. I judge myself by my own standards of success. I am ENOUGH just as I am. I am ready to show the world who I am and what I have to offer. No one can stop me from fulfilling my purpose! I am making space for more success to come into my life. I let go of my excuses. I am productive & focused on results! I choose to take responsibility for my own happiness. I will not let anyone “make” me angry today. I am in control! I am committed to the possibility of my own success. I take action on my goals now so I can have the lifestyle I want. I honor my need to rest and recharge. I am committed to finding at least one hour of “me” time today! I am here for a reason. That reason does not include gossip & negativity. I am committed to being a positive influence! I take my goals seriously. I know that my time here on earth is limited. I honor my life by doing what I love. I am committed to my own success. I go out of my way to meet people I admire & respect. I am on the path to greatness! I am comfortable asking for what I want because I know I deserve it. I choose to honor my desires today and always. I release all negativity from my life. I choose to focus on being positive and productive! I am thankful for this beautiful day and the infinite possibility it holds. I know something good is going to happen! I allow myself to be open to new opportunities and possibilities. I am free of believing that my options are limited. I can achieve whatever I want. I can have what I desire. Everything is possible. No matter what happens today, I will remember the truth that I am beautiful, powerful and free. I trust my inner wisdom and intuition. I am the only one who knows what’s best for me. I am focused on doing what I was put here on earth to do. Everything else is a distraction. I release my attachment to everything that no longer serves me. I deserve to be happy and free. Instead of complaining about not having ENOUGH time today, I will use the time I DO have in a way that honors my values and goals. As soon as I commit to my ideal life, the universe will start moving on my behalf. All I have to do is take the first step. My life is free from drama and negativity. I surround myself with love and light. I am brave enough to embrace my true power. I have full control over my life. Regardless of the situations which confront me, I know that I am blessed. I receive the blessing from every lesson! I release my desire to be “perfect.” I am already good enough to be loved & accepted. I know I am worthy just as I am! Forgiveness is a gift I give myself. By forgiving others, I set myself free from pain & suffering. I choose to forgive. Even if I take a wrong turn, I can find another route. I can get a map & chart a new course. Stopping is not an option! I am committed to accomplishing my goals, despite all the mistakes I make along the way. I choose to LEARN from them! I release all feelings of envy. I am destined to live my OWN version of happy that has nothing to do with anyone else. I will plant only GOOD seeds in the world today. I will not waste even one precious second in anger, hate or jealousy. I embrace my BEST self today. I choose to live in a way that will bring peace, joy, and happiness to myself and others. I am right where I need to be. I embrace the challenges & opportunities facing me right now. I choose to learn & grow! I am the President of my life. I refuse to allow anyone else to play that role. I trust myself to make good decisions. I release my need to control the future. Instead, I simply focus on allowing the BEST to happen! I choose to let go of the OLD so that I can finally start making progress with the NEW path I want to take in my life. I honor my desire to reach my goals. By doing at least ONE thing everyday, I make consistent progress toward my dreams! Instead of being discouraged by how far I still have left to go, I choose to be grateful for how far I’ve already come. I know that I was put on earth for a purpose. I choose to honor that purpose today & inspire others to walk their path. I refuse to allow myself to be overcommitted. I say NO quickly and easily. I protect my “me time” because I deserve it. I release all feelings of jealousy. I know I am enough & have enough. I don’t have to compete with anyone for anything. I embrace the infinite possibility of today. I am enthusiastic about life & ready to take inspired action on my goals! I refuse to allow others to hold me back from doing what I really want to do. I give myself permission to walk MY path. I accept the truth that the past cannot be changed. I choose to focus on my future and move forward in the light. I embrace my full potential, even if it makes others uncomfortable. I refuse to play small. I’m meant to do BIG things. I am no longer afraid of the unknown because I know I can overcome ANY challenge that comes my way. I am invincible! I choose to be myself & allow others to be themselves. I know I am no better than anyone else. We are ALL on the path. I release all negative thoughts. I maintain a positive mindset despite challenges. I give myself permission to SHINE! I embrace this opportunity to be better than I was yesterday. I take responsibility for my choices today and always. I choose to take action in spite of my fear of failure. No matter what happens, I give myself credit for daring to try. I am committed to taking action in spite of fear, knowing that all of my needs will be taken care of by the universe. I have nothing to worry about. I choose to focus only on what I can control. The rest will work itself out for my good. I don’t need the approval of others because I approve of myself. I know that my approval is the only kind that matters. I am in the right place at the right time. I am on the right path and I trust myself to make the right decisions. Instead of judging others, I judge myself on whether I’m being the best I can be. It’s always a better use of my time. I am in control of my life. I don’t need anyone’s approval before I make a decision. I choose to do what’s best for ME. I am in charge of my own happiness. I let go of the belief that I need someone to “make” me happy. I don’t have to wait until I feel “ready” to take action on my goals. The timing will never be perfect. I am ready now. No one can make me angry. I am responsible for my emotions and reactions. I choose to be at peace. There is nothing wrong with me. I am not lacking in any way. I am good enough. I have enough. I AM enough. I know what I want. I know I deserve to have it. I take responsibility for bringing it into my life. I am beautiful and worthy of every truly beautiful thing.
I am ready to let go of everything that no longer serves me. I choose to walk the bright path to my own happiness.
Fear flows through me but it is not me. I am bigger than fear. I am beyond fear. Fear does not define me. I am not fear.
I am willing to forgive. Forgiving myself and others releases me from the pain of the past. I forgive and I am free.
- I accept responsibility for my own happiness. I don’t need anyone or anything to complete me because I am already complete.” “Author unknown”
what you believe and what you tell yourself is what will be. if you say life sucks its gonna suck. but ya know what? if you just tell yourself life is going to get better and put your belief there it will get better. don’t hang around negative people, don’t listen to people who put you down, don’t listen to the negative thoughts going through your mind, SCREAM as loud as you can “
“SHUT THE FUCK UP” at the top of your lungs, loud enough so you hear it, then take your next step. always look for the positive in situations and your next move from there. you have a choice, there’s always a choice. …………..PEACE……….