WOMEN AND ONLINE DATING

I watched a show yesterday about women and online dating. it talked about our approach to men. it was about how we are looking for only good men, responsible, well off, etc etc…. but something he said hit home. say your someone who likes to fix broken men, sees there potential and want them to change into this great guy with your help in the end thinking he is going to love you for it. well in doing this, being the fixer nice person you are sublimely telling yourself your only good enough to find a guy who you can fix, someone who is not complete. your limiting to what you think you deserve when in all truth you don’t deserve someone to fix you deserve someone who doesn’t need fixing but you’ll never meet them because you have limited your beliefs to think you only deserve a man who you can improve a long the way. and that usually never happens you cant fix another person. does that make sense? know your worth and if you don’t yet or right now then don’t date until you do.

another comment the man had on that show was this;
a women was talking about how her ex told her he didn’t know if they would get back together and he was seeing someone else…he said to her and the audience, why is when we men do something bad to you, you women always blame yourselves?????? the man cheats and its your fault cause you gained weight? looked at him wrong???? responded to his adultery with harsh words and that’s your fault??? put the damn blame where it goes and stop blaming yourself because someone is a piece of shit. it has no reflection on who you are its your own twisted thinking. change the way you think. see the truth.

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I Know Everyone Is Sick Of Hearing His Name

excellent article regarding Donald Trump

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I have debated doing a post about Trump because the net is inundated with election rhetoric, everywhere you go someone is spouting about him or Clinton, it seems everyone has an opinion.  Friendships are being destroyed and people are being unfriended and blocked on Facebook. People are rioting in the streets, crying and fearful.

Being Canadian I have never paid much attention to US politics or problems in the states, I just kinda thought they lived like we did north of the border. I wasn’t really aware of prejudice, police brutality, Black Lives Matter, and even though I have gay friends and had a gay brother in law that I loved dearly; I never really thought about gay rights. Even with domestic violence, I had very limited knowledge of the dynamics of abuse and I admit I had a pretty narrow and judgemental opinion on the topic.  As is the…

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WHAT DOES THE SOCIOPATH REALLY FEEL?

its so important to understand how a sociopath thinks and feels. think about this… no empathy, no remorse and no conscious. they think they are superior human beings because they don’t use emotion when thinking or acting out. although they do feel negative emotions such as rage, hate, and jealousy. I mean you really have to think about this, no guilt or remorse for any of your actions. always believing you are right, no matter what proof someone may have they will deny the truth no matter what. they are miserable people but its so important for us to know this about them so we can heal our wounds. your dealing with someone who could care less about you or your feelings. its a horrible way to live. do they miss us? no they do not. did they love us? no , not in the way we see love they aren’t capable. remember all this when your asking yourself do they care about me, its so important to know and understand the facts of anti social personality disorder. learn this and accept it so you can better move forward.

An Open Letter To Donald Trump From Some Angry Women. — Drifting Through My Open Mind

Dear Mr. Trump… can I call you Mr. Trump? Is that ok? I want you to be happy, that’s very important to me. Before I get started, let me say this letter isn’t from all women. The Trumpettes surely won’t approve of this message. But this is from most women. We see right through you. […]

via An Open Letter To Donald Trump From Some Angry Women. — Drifting Through My Open Mind

“Lovebombing, Devalue, Discard and the Smear Campaign

Did you believe you met your soulmate? the one who is your knight in shining armor? did he sweep you off your feet in a very short period of time, treat you like you were the most important person they had ever met? wanted to know every little secret you ever had, constantly asking you questions about yourself, finding out your inter most desires in life only to turn around over night and flip the script on you. every secret you ever told them in confidence will now be used against you in a smear campaign. the more you fight them the worst they will smear your good name. they turn into the enemy over night, cheating, lying, stealing and making up stories about you that portray you as the abuser and them as the victim. they almost always leave you for new supply. they get bored very easy and must constantly have there ego fed by the one closest to them and will discard you to find a better supply to meet these needs. and when they do so they will try to destroy you with lies and slander and the worst part is they are convincing to others that what they are saying about you is true. be silent during this time if people don’t understand then they are not your true friends, remove them from your lifeline you need only true loyal friends at this time if you are left alone with no friends after doing this that’s OK, you’ll make new friends slowly in the future when you start to live again. victims are left devastated and blaming themselves for the narcissists/sociopaths abuse, this is not your fault you have been assaulted by a sociopath / narcissist. educate yourself on trauma bonds and Stockholm syndrome, we have all been touched by a trauma bond and educating yourself about these two things will help you break the bond the sociopath / narcissist has over you. stop the cycle of abuse know that this relationship is never going to survive the damage done to it, it wont ever change and get better, they are simply not capable. sure they can write you promises and swear to you that they will change but it wont ever happen to anyone with anti social personality disorder. the sooner you can accept this fact the sooner you can work towards your healing and please for Gods sake put the blame where it is deserved, with the sociopath / narcissist, not with yourself because you didn’t see it coming. in no way are you responsible for the damage caused by a sociopath / narcissist. so get that thought out of your head, don’t confuse yourself more than your abuser already has.

TWO STEPS BACK

 

If you go back and everything is the same don’t beat yourself up. Realize he (she) will never change. You will always get the same from a sociopath or narcissist. They do not just change for the better its a trick. Don’t waste your time sitting there doing nothing, taking someone’s shit, be done. Move. Do what ever you have to do to get away from them. The sooner you start to heal the sooner your life will change for the better. But stop beating the shit out of yourself, they have done enough of that to you don’t do it to yourself to.

 

THIS IS ONLY A TEST

“this is only a test !!! the universe is trying to teach you a lesson. that you matter, what you think matters, what you feel matters. most of us have lost our identities to these relationships the universe is trying to reconnect your soul. go with the flow, the pain will subside in time. you will not stay in pain and depressed forever, this is temporary. this is only a test !!!”

SOCIOPATHIC RECOVERY

if you are new to sociopathic abuse recovery or still going through intense pain, just know you are right where your supposed to be. recovery from narcissistic or sociopathic abuse is going to be the hardest thing you have ever done in your life. is it normal to be so depressed and suicidal? yes it is !! you are going to want to just die for awhile, this is a normal response just do not act on it,  it will pass in time. if it gets so bad that you feel you may act on it please go to the ER and explain what your going through, they probably wont understand the narcissist part but they do understand depression. just know that like everything else bad this does go away. also don’t just lie there being depressed and letting your thoughts run wild. use this time to go ahead and lie in bed, take your laptop with you and start researching sociopathy. put new info into your brain that is going to help you heal. this part of recovery is the beginning, yes you have a long ways to go but your on the right path if you do this. give yourself permission to grieve. also be good to yourself. eat something don’t stave yourself, go for a little walk if you can this will help you feel better. just take care of you, you are now learning that you matter and no one but you can take care of yourself, someone else is not responsible for your happiness you are. your on a journey to find yourself now, know that. just know this even though you feel so alone in this world your not. there are 4,000 + members in this group, usually a couple hundred active at the time, you are not alone !!! we do care and will help you walk the path. I want you to envision that tunnel with a light at the very end this is where your at now. how quickly you get to the other side is up to you. you must do the work so start reading. just know this much , we all have been where you are and felt that same intense pain, we walked through it. you cant go around it you must feel it and walk straight through your pain that is how you will heal, we have been here and know how you feel that’s why we do what we do and try to give back and help those on this journey. we did it so will you. don’t give up and know that how you feel is normal for what you are going through.